You can't make your kids do anything. All you can do is make them wish they had. And then, they will make you wish you hadn't made them wish they had.
Marshall B. RosenbergTags: love compassion children parenting discipline
We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in the derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves. As author and mythologist Joseph Campbell suggested, "'What will they think of me?' must be put aside for bliss." We begin to feel this bliss when messages previously experienced as critical or blaming begin to be seen for the gifts they are: opportunities to give to people who are in pain.
Marshall B. RosenbergAll violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and that consequently those people deserve to be punished.
Marshall B. RosenbergEvery criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.
Marshall B. RosenbergTags: psychology
Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values
Marshall B. RosenbergPeace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other. Being aware of these feelings and needs, people lose their desire to attack back because they can see the human ignorance leading to these attacks; instead, their goal becomes providing the empathic connection and education that will enable them to transcend their violence and engage in cooperative relationships.
Marshall B. RosenbergTags: peace communication relationships violence nonviolence
Now, with regard to the people who have done things we call "terrorism," I'm confident they have been expressing their pain in many different ways for thirty years or more. Instead of our empathically receiving it when they expressed it in much gentler ways -- they were trying to tell us how hurt they felt that some of their most sacred needs were not being respected by the way we were trying to meet our economic and military needs -- they got progressively more agitated. Finally, they got so agitated that it took horrible form.
Marshall B. RosenbergTags: empathy peace communication violence nonviolence terrorism gentleness terrorists
To practice the process of conflict resolution, we must completely abandon the goal of getting people to do what we want.
Marshall B. RosenbergAt the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.
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