The childhood sexual abuse taught me that my value came from sex. In adulthood, I was driven to have sex since I always felt worthless. I felt important and desired until it was over and then I felt like garbage—the same way I did after the abuse. I desperately needed to feel valued again, which led to more sex. My sex addiction only stopped when I believed that I’m valuable apart from anything I do.
Christina EnevoldsenTag: addiction value rejection child-abuse sexual-abuse child-sexual-abuse low-self-esteem worthless
If you are trading silence or compliance for love, you are being cheated. When acceptance or love is withheld if you reveal secrets, the value of the relationship is just an illusion. Love cannot be earned, bought or traded–only freely given. You are worthy of love that doesn’t require you to protect your abuser or sacrifice yourself.
Christina EnevoldsenTag: love silence self-sacrifice secrets respect sacrifice relationship compliance abuse-acceptance
A person raised in a healthy family is equipped to live a confident and independent life; someone from an unhealthy family is filled with fear and self-doubt. He has difficulty with the prospect of life without someone else. The devaluing messages of control and manipulation create dependency so those who most need to leave their family of origin are the least equipped to do so.
Christina EnevoldsenTag: fear doubt manipulation self-doubt child-abuse abuse healing-from-abuse dependency unhealthy abusive-parents abusive-family child-abuse-effects
The inability to get something out of your head is a signal that shouts, “Don’t forget to deal with this!” As long as you experience fear or pain with a memory or flashback, there is a lie attached that needs to be confronted. In each healing step, there is a truth to be gathered and a lie to discard.
Christina EnevoldsenTag: fear truth pain lies mind lie brain healing sign trauma head ptsd post-traumatic-stress-disorder negative-thoughts flashback traumatic signal full-of-thoughts
The introduction to horrors so young impressed on me just how helpless and vulnerable I was. Parents are supposed to empower their children to live without them but in my family, I wasn’t given permission to be my own person. I thought I needed them to live and then they abandoned me. It’s no wonder I felt so unempowered well into my adult years.
Christina EnevoldsenTag: power horror independence abandonment child-abuse child-sexual-abuse dependent unempowered
I believed I was too sensitive and weak. To “prove” I wasn’t a victim anymore, I moved closer to painful experiences rather than away from them. Remaining in harm’s way and exposing myself to more pain kept me in the victim role rather than moving me out of it.
Christina EnevoldsenTag: pain harm suffering weak healing victim sensitive victimization belief-system victim-role
It’s common to reject or punish yourself when you’ve been rejected by others. When you experience disappointment from the way your family or others treat you, that’s the time to take special care of yourself. What are you doing to nurture yourself? What are you doing to protect yourself? Find a healthy way to express your pain.
Christina EnevoldsenTag: pain punishment disappointment rejection self-care nurturing punishing
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