Há uma condescendência devastadora em sacrificar pessoas, especialmente crianças, no altar da "diversidade" e na virtude da preservação de uma variedade de tradições religiosas. O restante de nós vive feliz com nossos carros e computadores, vacinas e antibióticos. Mas vocês, pessoinhas exóticas com seus chapéus e calçolas, suas carroças, seu dialeto arcaico e suas casinhas de banho, vocês enriquecem nossas vidas. É claro que se deve permitir que vocês aprisionem suas crianças em seu túnel do tempo seiscentista, senão perderíamos uma coisa irrecuperável: uma parte da maravilhosa diversidade da cultura humana. Uma pequena parte de mim ver alguma coisa nisso. Mas a maior parte fica é com enjoo.
Richard DawkinsStichwörter: childhood-abuse
Survivors are often incredibly aware and perceptive. What was born of necessity becomes a response that is gentle and understanding.
Jeanne McElvaneyStichwörter: abuse-survivors survivors-of-abuse childhood-abuse healing-insights abuse-recovery childhood-sexual-abuse effects-of-child-abuse harrietta-s-happenstance healing-abuse jeanne-mcelvaney spirit-unbroken-abby-s-story
There is a moment in our healing journey when our denial crumbles; we realize our experience and it's continued effects on us won't "just go away". That's our breakthrough moment. It's the sun coming out to warm the seeds of hope so they can grow our personal garden of empowerment.
Jeanne McElvaneyStichwörter: hope denial growth healing survivors abuse-survivors survivors-of-abuse childhood-abuse healing-insights healing-journey abuse-recovery childhood-sexual-abuse effects-of-child-abuse harrietta-s-happenstance healing-abuse jeanne-mcelvaney spirit-unbroken-abby-s-story denial-of-child-abuse post-traumatic-growth
In the weeds of childhood sexual abuse, we are the sturdy flowers that kept reaching for a slip of sunshine and a trickle of water so we could grow into wildly beautiful, singular people. Together, we are creating a colorful bouquet that is changing the world.
Jeanne McElvaneyStichwörter: abuse-survivors survivors-of-abuse childhood-abuse abuse-recovery childhood-sexual-abuse effects-of-child-abuse harrietta-s-happenstance healing-abuse jeanne-mcelvaney spirit-unbroken-abby-s-story gotospirit-com
One year later the society claimed victory in another case which again did not fit within the parameters of the syndrome, nor did the court find on the issue. Fiona Reay, a 33 year old care assistant, accused her father of systematic sexual abuse during her childhood. The facts of her childhood were not in dispute: she had run away from home on a number of occasions and there was evidence that she had never been enrolled in secondary school. Her father said it was because she was ‘young and stupid’. He had physically assaulted Fiona on a number of occasions, one of which occurred when she was sixteen. The police had been called to the house by her boyfriend; after he had dropped her home, he heard her screaming as her father beat her with a dog chain.
As before there was no evidence of repression of memory in this case. Fiona Reay had been telling the same story to different health professionals for years. Her medical records document her consistent reference to family problems from the age of 14. She finally made a clear statement in 1982 when she asked a gynaecologist if her need for a hysterectomy could be related to the fact that she had been sexually abused by her father. Five years later she was admitted to psychiatric hospital stating that one of the precipitant factors causing her breakdown had been an unexpected visit from her father. She found him stroking her daughter. There had been no therapy, no regression and no hypnosis prior to the allegations being made public.
The jury took 27 minutes to find Fiona Reay’s father not guilty of rape and indecent assault. As before, the court did not hear evidence from expert witnesses stating that Fiona was suffering from false memory syndrome. The only suggestion of this was by the defence counsel, Toby Hedworth. In his closing remarks he referred to the ‘worrying phenomenon of people coming to believe in phantom memories’.
The next case which was claimed as a triumph for false memory was heard in March 1995. A father was aquitted of raping his daughter. The claims of the BFMS followed the familiar pattern of not fitting within the parameters of false memory at all. The daughter made the allegations to staff members whom she had befriended during her stay in psychiatric hospital. As before there was no evidence of memory repression or recovery during therapy and again the case failed due to lack of corroborating evidence. Yet the society picked up on the defence solicitor’s statements that the daughter was a prone to ‘fantasise’ about sexual matters and had been sexually promiscuous with other patients in the hospital.
~ Trouble and Strife, Issues 37-43
Stichwörter: fantasy memory law rape police abusers sexual-abuse incest rape-culture pedophile childhood-abuse false-memory physical-abuse child-rape paedophile false-memory-syndrome-foundation british-false-memory
So often survivors have had their experiences denied, trivialized, or distorted. Writing is an important avenue for healing because it gives you the opportunity to define your own reality. You can say: This did happen to me. It was that bad. It was the fault
Ellen BassStichwörter: innocence reality lies courage relationships shame guilt responsibility healing victim recovery blame child-abuse sexual-abuse survivor abuse childhood-abuse emotional-abuse abusive
I want everyone that has been abused by someone in their childhood to know that you can get past it. Having DID is not the end of the world; it's the beginning of your new life. DID allows the victim of exceptional abuse the ability to “forget” the abuse and continue living. Without it, I may have gone crazy as a teen and spent my life in a as a teen and spent my life in a psychiatric hospital.
Dauna ColeStichwörter: psychology memory crazy healing victim recovery insane child-abuse survivor abuse dissociative-identity-disorder abused childhood-abuse dissociative pyschiatric
On top of the abuse and neglect, denial heaps more hurt upon the child by requiring the child to alienate herself from reality and her own experience. In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted; it's the talking about them that is forbidden.
Marcia SirotaStichwörter: reality secret denial parenting alienation hidden pretend child-abuse neglect forbidden deny abuse incest family-secrets childhood-abuse
There are many heartfelt reasons for pushing our childhood sexual abuse to the edge of our lives and one amazing reason to embrace a healing journey;
it reunites us with our
shining,
colorful,
joyful spirit.
Stichwörter: abuse-survivors survivors-of-abuse childhood-abuse abuse-recovery childhood-sexual-abuse effects-of-child-abuse harrietta-s-happenstance healing-abuse jeanne-mcelvaney spirit-unbroken-abby-s-story gotospirit-com
Denial is commonly found among persons with dissociative disorders. My favorite quotation from such a client is, "We are not multiple, we made it all up." I have heard this from several different clients. When I hear it, I politely inquire, "And who is we?
Alison MillerStichwörter: denial dissociation child-abuse child-sexual-abuse dissociative-identity-disorder multiple-personality-disorder split-personality childhood-abuse dissociative-disorders ddnos
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