But we are not what the other one needs, still he is certain that I will find great love in my life someday. He is sure of it. After all, he says, beauty attracts beauty.
Elizabeth GilbertTags: love
I remember saying once to my friend Susan, when my marriage was becoming intolerable, "I don't want my children growing up in a household like this." Susan said, "Why don't you leave those so-called children out of the discussion? They don't even exist yet. Why can't you just admit that you don't want to live in unhappiness anymore?
Elizabeth GilbertTags: happiness not-settling-for-second-best
My heart was broken so badly last time that it still hurts. Isn't that crazy? To still have a broken heart almost two years after a love story ends?
Elizabeth GilbertTags: grief heartbreak
It all comes down to one simple question: "Do you want your belly pressed against this person's belly forever--or not?
Elizabeth GilbertWhen asked how he could tell the difference, the saint said that you can only tell which is which by the way you feel after the creature has left your company. If you are appalled, he said, then it was a devil who had visited you. If you feel lightened, it was an angel.
Elizabeth GilbertPeople universally tend to think that happiness is a stroke of luck, something that will maybe descend upon you like fine weather if you're fortunate enough. But that's not how happiness works. Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it, you must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it. If you don't, you will leak away your inner contentment. It's easy enough to pray when you're in distress but continuing to pray even when your crisis has passed is like a sealing process, helping your soul hold tight to its good attainments.
Elizabeth GilbertTags: happiness
So when modern-day religious conservatives wax nostalgic about how marriage is a sacred tradition that reaches back into history for thousands of uninterrupted years, they are correct, but in only one respect - only if they happen to be talking about Judaism. Christianity simply does not share that deep and consistent historical reverence toward matrimony. Lately it has, yes- but not originally. For the first thousand or so years of Christian history, the church regarded monogamous marriage as marginally less wicked that flat-out whoring but only very marginally.
Elizabeth GilbertMarriage is what happens "between the memorable." He said that we often look back on our marriages years later, perhaps after one spouse has died, and wall we can recall are "the vacations, and emergencies" - the high points and low points. The rest of it blends into a blurry sort of daily sameness. But it is that very blurred sameness, the poet argues, that comprises marriage. Marriage is those two thousand indistinguishable conversations, chatted over two thousand indistinguishable breakfasts, where intimacy turns like a slow wheel. How do you measure the worth of becoming that familiar to somebody- so utterly well known and so thoroughly ever-present, that you become an almost invisible necessity, like air?
Elizabeth GilbertThis is what intimacy does to us over time. That's what a long marriage can do: It causes us to inherit and trade each other's stories. This, in part, is how we become annexes of each other, trellises on which each other's biography can grow.
Elizabeth Gilbertتخيلت ميناء عقلي ،,,
فهو على الأرجح ميناء متهالك، مزقته العواصف، ولكنّ موقعه جيد وعمقه مناسب. ميناء عقلي هو خليج مفتوح، إنه المدخل الوحيد لجزيرة ذاتي (وهي جزيرة شابة وبركانية، أجل، ولكنها خصبة وواعدة). وقد خاضت هذه الجزيرة بعض الحروب، ولكنّها التزمت الآن بالسلام، بقيادة زعيم جديد (أنا) وضع سياسات جديدة لحماية المكان.
والآن، ثمة قوانين أكثر صرامة بكثير بخصوص من يدخل هذا الميناء.
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فإن امكنك يا افكاري العزيزة الالتزام بهذه القوانين الجديدة, اهلا وسهلا, وإلا, فلترجعي الى البحر, من حيث أتيتِ.
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