[his healing skills] ..lay in the ability to comfort, to comfort in the proper sense, to make strong, to fortify
Stephen FryTags: strength healing comfort the-hippopotamus
The most important thing in defining child sexual abuse is the experience of the child. It takes very little for a child’s world to be devastated. A single experience can have a profound impact on a child’s life. A man sticks his hand in his daughter’s underpants, or strokes his son’s penis once, and for that child, the world is never the same again.
Laura HoughTags: healing recovery mental-health child-abuse trauma sexual-abuse abuse child-sexual-abuse devastation
Although healing brings a better life, it also threatens to permanently alter life as you’ve known it. Your relationships, your position in the world, even your sense of identity may change. Coping patterns that have served you for a lifetime will be called into question. When you make the commitment to heal, you risk losing much of what is familiar. As a result one part of you may want to heal while another resists change.
Laura DavisTags: identity change relationships healing recovery mental-health commitment copy child-sexual-abuse
Many survivors insist they’re not courageous: ‘If I were courageous I would have stopped the abuse.’ ‘If I were courageous, I wouldn't be scared’... Most of us have it mixed up. You don’t start with courage and then face fear. You become courageous because you face your fear.
Laura DavisTags: fear courage healing survivors mental-health trauma abuse child-sexual-abuse
Just as verbally and physically abused children internalize blame, so do incest victims. However, in incest, the blame is compounded by the shame. The belief that ‘it’s all my fault’ is never more intense than with the incest victim. This belief fosters strong feelings of self-loathing and shame. In addition to having somehow to cope with the actual incest, the victim must now guard against being caught and exposed as a ‘dirty, disgusting’ person
Susan ForwardTags: family parents belief children shame feelings depression healing victim mental-health incest toxic anxious fearful toxic-parents
Symptoms of illness and distress, plus your feelings about them, can be viewed as messengers coming to tell you something important about your body or about your mind. In the old days, if a king didn't like the message he was given, he would sometimes have the messenger killed. This is tantamount to suppressing your symptoms or your feelings because they are unwanted. Killing the messenger and denying the message or raging against it are not intelligent ways of approaching healing. The one thing we don't want to do is to ignore or rupture the essential connections that can complete relevant feedback loops and restore self-regulation and balance. Our real challenge when we have symptoms is to see if we can listen to their message and really hear them and take them to heart, that is, make the connection fully.
Jon Kabat-ZinnTheirs was the eternal youth of an alternating self, a youth with the constant although unfulfilled promise of growing up
Flora Rheta SchreiberTags: amnesia healing psychiatry recovery psychotherapy mental-health dissociation multiple-personalities sexual-abuse abuse multiplicity dissociative-identity-disorder mpd dissociative-amnesia fugue
You cannot make yourself have a flashback, nor will you have one unless you are emotionally ready to remember something. Once remembered, the memory can help you to face more of the truth. You can then express your pent-up feelings about the memory and continue on your path to recovery. Think of the flashback as a clue to the next piece of work. No matter how painful, try to view it as a positive indication that you are now ready and willing to remember.
Beverly EngelTags: innocence pain emotions memory rape healing recovery mental-health mental-illness sexual-abuse abuse sexual-assault flashback
There is point in your life when you come face to face with the reality that you cannot take another step on your own. For me, I had never experienced that point, but depression brought me there. I have slowly, painfully and continually been confronted by my brokenness. Coming to terms with the fact that I am broken has been at the center of my accepting my being loved.
For me, now, there exists a sense of desperate need for what God brings to my spiritual and mental self. Without His voice I cannot cope with the darkness, but with His whisper of "you are My beloved", I can take a step each day away from the chasm. I am broken but not beyond mending, not beyond love.
It has been this desperation that has opened a crevice in which I am seeing Him for the first time. He is why my soul can find some peace even when my mind is dark and numb. It is this love that continually has brought me back from the edge of the impostor to the honesty of my broken, inner self
Tags: soul hope depression healing
Those old sayings about Give It Time, and Time is a Healer depend on just whose time it is.
Jeanette WintersonTags: time healing old-sayings
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