Online friends networks and dating sites, like the coffeehouse, are responding to the needs of introverts. We can write, not talk. We can get to the good stuff, and we can press delete as needed.
Laurie A. HelgoeTag: introversion
I believed that if I had the whole story, if I had the opportunity to really know the person I was sitting with, there would be nobody I could not love.
Laurie A. HelgoeTag: introversion
Though some of us like to get on stage, many introverts are content to put on their invisibility cloaks and watch. But well-meaning extroverts will have none of that! They need to draw us out, invite us to participate—repeatedly—and question why we are so depressed as to not want to join.
Laurie A. HelgoeTag: introversion
For introverts, who have limited energy for interaction, we need to be more thoughtful and deliberate about whom we meet—which, happily, is what we do best.
Laurie A. HelgoeTag: introversion
While the introvert is reflecting on the question (thinking first), the extrovert takes this as an invitation to fill the void (talking first). As long as the introvert doesn’t interrupt, the extrovert continues to fill the interpersonal space with talk. But as long as the extrovert talks, the introvert can’t think and stays mute. Mute means the invitation is still open, and continued talk assures that the introvert remains mute. By the time the extrovert pauses to ask, the introvert’s head is pounding and he or she just wants to get out so she can think. The extrovert just assumes the introvert had nothing to say, and moves on.
Laurie A. HelgoeTag: introversion
Whatever kind of introvert you are, some people will find you “too much” in some ways and “not enough” in others.
Laurie A. HelgoeTag: introversion
I’m one of those introverts with well-honed social skills, and I have even danced on the occasional table, but I have felt sheer panic when my exhaustion precedes my exit. It’s like the Cinderella story with a twist: I want to get out of there and into my duds before midnight—or ten, or eight.
Laurie A. HelgoeTag: introversion
It takes an extrovert to bring out my upbeat side. If it were up to me, everyone would probably just sit around talking about mysteries of the universe.
Laurie A. HelgoeTag: introversion
I will say that the socially oblivious extroverts do not represent the whole. As with introverts, social skills are independent of extroversion: some are skilled, some are not. The skilled ones know how to listen. But in contrast to socially unskilled introverts, who keep to themselves, socially unskilled extroverts insist on socializing.
Laurie A. HelgoeTag: introversion
Though I may be efficient at the family table, I linger at the table for two.
Laurie A. HelgoeTag: introversion
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